Forgiveness is one of the most difficult actions a person can take on the path of self-healing. It’s hard because it requires the person to process a lot of hurts and various other emotions, not to mention memories and then give that all up.
The very thought of forgiving someone creates so much unrest, but the process frees the forgiver from holding on to the weight of the past and creates a path for the heart to live again.
The weight of past emotions is like an unpaid debt that has its interest compounded every day that passes by. The longer we take to deal with it, the greater the debt becomes, and the most profound realization comes when we realize this debt is something we took out on our own heart due to the actions of someone else.
In Matthew 6:12 (NET), when Jesus teaches His disciples how to pray, He says this.
And forgive us our debts, as we ourselves have forgiven our debtors.
I like this translation along with a few others because the condition for us to receive forgiveness from God the Father is based on us having “forgiven” others.
Most translations have us seeking forgiveness, while we are still in the process of forgiving others, but the most accurate translations from Hebrew, have it in the past tense. To receive forgiveness, we must have a clean slate and not have any debt of forgiveness still pending in our hearts.
It’s important to come to God with a clean heart, Jesus highlights this in Matthew 5:23-24 (MEV) also.
Therefore, if you bring your gift to the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go on your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.
Reconciliation is important to God, we need to have our accounts in good order, we need to approach God without any debt, so our debt can also be cleared.
There are many ways to go through the process of forgiveness, and some have found expressing writing to be beneficial in how they process and deal with the debt of unforgiveness.
What if we applied the same process of expressing our thoughts and feelings by writing it down, and letting them go.
How much faster could we empty our account from all the debt of unforgiveness we accumulated over the years?